Help her with the housework

[Morriss Partee]

It's often hard for men to understand women. Men will never entirely understand women, which is why the stereotype exists that women are impossible to understand. Many men give up trying to understand. But that's shortsighted. There are plenty of things about women that men CAN easily understand if they just put a little time, effort and thought into it.

One thing that is true for many women is that they are incredibly busy. For no one is this more true than single moms. Trying to juggle getting the kids ready for school, making sure school backpacks have the right things in them, homework is done, lunch is made, after school care is arranged, coordinating child schedules with the ex, on TOP of all the pressures of work, projects, bosses, schedules, and that's not even considering keeping up with the housework, dishes, cooking, laundry, vacuuming, paying bills, and constant trips to the grocery store, and you can see why all women, especially single moms, need their precious downtime (all 30 minutes of it a week, if that) to blow off a little steam. A mother's work (single mom or not) is seemingly never done.

If you are romancing a TQ who is a single mom, and you've gotten past the first few dates, probably the quickest way to win her heart is to help her with some of the housework. This includes washing the dishes, helping with the cooking, or even the simple act of taking out the trash. Look at it from the point of view of the single mom: it's daunting knowing that YOU are responsible for EVERY single detail of the household, or else it won't get done. EVER. So if you get the chance, take out the trash. Put away the clean dishes. Load up the dishwasher and put it into action. Take the garbage out. Do the recycling. Bring her her favorite beverage for no particular reason.

Trust me, she will notice these things, and chances are high she will reward you BIG TIME with her gratitude and love in return. (If she doesn't, perhaps you haven't found the right TQ to romance.)

BTW, I really enjoy vacuuming. It's such a great feeling of accomplishment to run a loud machine that makes the rugs look so good in its wake. Besides, it takes real strength to vacuum carpeted stairs by lifting the whole machine onto each step (attachments are for wussies...or for the bedroom). I don't understand why more men don't feel the same way.

So, men, if you are feeling that it's not manly to do housework, I've got news for you. Dudes, you are missing out on some SERIOUS gratitude from your lady. Take that vacuum out for a spin around her home and see what happens next. Showing the vacuum cleaner who is boss is LIKE PORN TO HER. Why wouldn't you want to get her all hot and bothered for you by getting elbow deep into the dish detergent bubbles?

Morriss is in a perpetual state of wooing TQ Lesley. This blog post can also be found at Wooing Your TQ.

[James Stratford]

You've discovered the secret! Seriously, you have hit on what many miss and most often ignore if they didn't miss it. It's the small things that matter as well as the things we can do to make them feel special (which they are indeed). I enjoy reading your posts Morriss keep everything up, always date your love, and the love will grow and grow! Thanks!

[Lisa Oden]

Wow! Now THAT's my kind of story. You could write a romance novel..."She was filled with delight as he slowly moved the vacuum back and forth across the floor." I may have to print this article and leave it where my husband will find it. :-)

[Lesley Lambert]

OH baby! You know what rocks my world! Seriously, this is huge stuff and I am so grateful for every act of kindness you have done for me!